Saturday, April 9, 2011
Monday, April 4, 2011
yesterday would have been your 43rd birthday
and i miss you dearly, Val. if i had you for one day, i would fill you in on how well you daughter, my neice, is doing. her prom is May 13th, graduation is June 2, and yes, she has a date! :) she’s super excited! Nik got accepted to each school in which she applied and she’s decided to attend UMBC to study Pharmacy. she’s a beautiful, smart, witty, well-spoken young lady who’s an independent thinker. and after all this time, she still refuses to get a relaxer because her head is always buried in a good book (or on Facebook lol). you would be SO proud!! we’re all so proud of her.
Val, you are loved and we miss you a great deal. we still talk about you and imitate your deep voice all the time ;) nearly three years later, not a day goes by that i don’t think of you.
love always,
Baby Sis
Val, you are loved and we miss you a great deal. we still talk about you and imitate your deep voice all the time ;) nearly three years later, not a day goes by that i don’t think of you.
love always,
Baby Sis
Friday, April 1, 2011
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Thursday, March 17, 2011
get it together...
It annoys me when I hear people say, “I’m gonna stop shopping there because everyone wears the same thing!” Well, DUH! You’re at a chain clothing store where they have at least 3 of the same garment in the same color and the same size on the same rack. And unless you have a personal designer, someone somewhere is going to have a piece of clothing that is the exact same or at least resembles yours. Not to mention, we come from a generation that idolizes celebrities, emulating their every move, trying so hard to dress like them. So of course I’m not surprised, because fashion is recycled. But it’s how you wear it that makes you distinct.
The key is originality. O-r-i-g-i-n-a-l-i-t-y. And having your own style. Your Own Style. How you choose to hook up your ‘fit is what really makes the difference. Even if you must shop at chain stores, challenge yourself to wear it differently. Make attempts not to wear the same outfit the exact same way when heading out for a night of fun. It’s hard but that’s the beauty of a challenge. Accessorize. Be fresh. Break the rules. Go all out. Shop Thrift. Try it simple (my favorite). Mix and match. Go chic. Host a swap party. Be classy. Be funky. There is no room to complain because there are so many alternatives for enhancing your personal style. You’ve got to find your niche and Own it. You deserve it!
Always remember, it’s never too late to re-invent your closet and transform your life. And when all else fails, throw on a Cardigan and whip out those Pearls! They will never steer you wrong!
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
two months
since things ended with dude (see entry titled: “two weeks”), i really believe in hindsight that i’ve made the best decision. things are coming full circle and on a day like today, Valentine’s Day, he would have been stressing me about why we weren’t spending this day together. anyone who knows me is aware of my Love Day tradition (i’ll tell you how that tradition started another time). i spend it with my sister, brother-in-law, and whatever small number of selected guests they decide to invite. we enjoy steak, baked potatoes, crab cakes, salad, rolls, some fancy drink concoction, topped off with assorted scrumptious desserts. i can never think of any other place i’d rather be. sure i liked him, but i never felt compelled to spend Valentine’s Day with him. so we would argue, and i would be left feeling an immense amount of stress wrapped in a blanket of guilt.
well, not this year! no arguing, no bickering or guilty, stressful emotions clouding my mind during dinner. instead i relaxed, enjoyed tasty food, great conversation, exchanged loud laughs and fascinating stories. it’s where i wanted to be. and i loved every minute of it. im so satisfied where i am now.. this time last year i was so unhappy. shedding dead weight this year has never felt so good.
well, not this year! no arguing, no bickering or guilty, stressful emotions clouding my mind during dinner. instead i relaxed, enjoyed tasty food, great conversation, exchanged loud laughs and fascinating stories. it’s where i wanted to be. and i loved every minute of it. im so satisfied where i am now.. this time last year i was so unhappy. shedding dead weight this year has never felt so good.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
10 Tips to Improve Your Self-Esteem
1. Do what you love.
Everyone loves to do something, when you indulge yourself in your love you improve the way you feel about yourself. You improve your self esteem.
2. Help others out.
Nothing makes you feel a warm glow than when you unselfishly help others. Of course you can argue that this in itself is selfish, but if you take that line of thought you must think that existence is selfish. Forget that. Just do a good deed, help someone out, doesn’t have to be big and it doesn’t have to cost any money.
3. Acknowledge your strengths
There is no one who has no strengths. Everyone is good at something, know what your good at and give yourself a pat on the back. Do things that bring this quality out into the open. Excercise it, make it stronger.
4. Don’t put up with crap.
There is no reason you should tolerate other people being mean to you. Even if they say they are doing it with love. Make sure people know they should be nice to you and if they refuse, walk away from them.
5. Drop your negative friends.
Hang out with people who are positive and support you. It may be fun to bitch and moan but if you hang out with these types of people you will eventually become one of them. You may have noticed that people who bitch and moan are never happy.
6. Do your research
A lof of self help books are a waste of time in the sense that the only person who can change you is you. Reading even this blog post will not change you unless you get emotionally involved with the information. Which is really hard as it’s really dry and boring. Go read biographies of people you respect, people who do positive things and attain huge success. Learn from the master not the self help guru who is always in debt.
7. Learn to accept compliments.
It’s hard to accept a compliment and not to dismiss it as being ridiculous. Someone has an opinion and it should be respected, even if you do not argree with it. If people think good about you then maybe you should too.
8. Include positivity in your life.
I’m not talking an airy fairy chant in the mirror whilst naked. I mean take a positive slant on everything automatically. The meat pie you just bit in to may contain maggots, but maggots contain a lot of protein. OK that’s a bit extreme but you get the point.
9. Compare yourself against yourself.
If you look at how you were yesterday and how you are today and there is an improvement then that is great. If there is no improvement then you know you need to improve your efforts. Don’t start comparing your self to other people. Saying you are poor compared to D. Trump is just going to make you miserable.
10. There is no need for you to put yourself down.
By seeing yourself in a negative light you are only reinforcing your low self esteem. If you want to improve your self esteem. Ask yourself, how can I improve my self esteem. The answer will always be, find one positive thing about yourself and that will do it
Everyone loves to do something, when you indulge yourself in your love you improve the way you feel about yourself. You improve your self esteem.
2. Help others out.
Nothing makes you feel a warm glow than when you unselfishly help others. Of course you can argue that this in itself is selfish, but if you take that line of thought you must think that existence is selfish. Forget that. Just do a good deed, help someone out, doesn’t have to be big and it doesn’t have to cost any money.
3. Acknowledge your strengths
There is no one who has no strengths. Everyone is good at something, know what your good at and give yourself a pat on the back. Do things that bring this quality out into the open. Excercise it, make it stronger.
4. Don’t put up with crap.
There is no reason you should tolerate other people being mean to you. Even if they say they are doing it with love. Make sure people know they should be nice to you and if they refuse, walk away from them.
5. Drop your negative friends.
Hang out with people who are positive and support you. It may be fun to bitch and moan but if you hang out with these types of people you will eventually become one of them. You may have noticed that people who bitch and moan are never happy.
6. Do your research
A lof of self help books are a waste of time in the sense that the only person who can change you is you. Reading even this blog post will not change you unless you get emotionally involved with the information. Which is really hard as it’s really dry and boring. Go read biographies of people you respect, people who do positive things and attain huge success. Learn from the master not the self help guru who is always in debt.
7. Learn to accept compliments.
It’s hard to accept a compliment and not to dismiss it as being ridiculous. Someone has an opinion and it should be respected, even if you do not argree with it. If people think good about you then maybe you should too.
8. Include positivity in your life.
I’m not talking an airy fairy chant in the mirror whilst naked. I mean take a positive slant on everything automatically. The meat pie you just bit in to may contain maggots, but maggots contain a lot of protein. OK that’s a bit extreme but you get the point.
9. Compare yourself against yourself.
If you look at how you were yesterday and how you are today and there is an improvement then that is great. If there is no improvement then you know you need to improve your efforts. Don’t start comparing your self to other people. Saying you are poor compared to D. Trump is just going to make you miserable.
10. There is no need for you to put yourself down.
By seeing yourself in a negative light you are only reinforcing your low self esteem. If you want to improve your self esteem. Ask yourself, how can I improve my self esteem. The answer will always be, find one positive thing about yourself and that will do it
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